A Difficult Conclusion

I have known of quite a few patients in the ICU that I’m in that have died. I have even cared for a few of them on a day shortly before their deaths. However, I have not yet seen a “code” situation or watched a person die, let alone clean up their bodies afterwards.

Today I had that experience. When I arrived on the floor a little after 6AM, the night shift nurses were all unusually busy, and both the night shift charge nurse and day shift charge nurse were in the same room, along with two other nurses and a respiratory therapist. They were shaking their heads frequently and running around, saying the patient's O2 sats were in the 70s-80s (which is pretty bad, but is by no means a death sentence.) When the charge nurse came out, I purposely (unknown to her) asked to be with a different patient, even though I knew the previously mentioned patient would certainly be an intensive learning experience.

Since my first day on the unit, I have been unbelievably petrified of having one of my patients code. The charge nurses always try to give us very sick patients because they are the best learning experiences for students – so I have gladly welcomed opportunities to learn. Regardless of my desire to learn, I have still been, simply put – TERRIFIED – of being in a code situation and having to give chest compressions, bag them, push epinephrine/emergency meds, etc. It doesn’t help that I have a pretty low level of confidence in myself, which is almost crippling at times. So this morning, there was something in the air about this guy – and I did NOT want to be on the front lines when he crashed, which seemed pretty likely.

About two hours later, I hear the calm, almost robotic voice of someone calling a code blue over the intercom system of the hospital. People came running from every corner of the campus – cardiac, chaplains, pharmacist, anesthesia, respiratory backup – everyone. Not to mention the three students (including myself) that were already on the unit. I walked over from my patient’s room to the room where the code was happening, and there were already 20 or so people crowding the room. The large glass doors were flung open, and one of the nephrologists (he was in the room when the patient coded) was giving chest compressions – but the nurses were clearly running the show. I walked over at the same time as the patient’s three family members came rushing to the room, and my heart broke. In a matter of seconds as they saw the nightmare scenario before them, they began crying and quivering and clutching each other while sobbing. I wanted so badly to say something to them and comfort them, but I started crying just looking at them and had to control myself and look away to remain “professional.” It was frightening to me too; I’d never experienced anything like it.

In a shortened version, here is what actually happened to cause the code blue. The man was (clearly) ridiculously ill. Among other things, he was on continuous renal replacement therapy (dialysis) and the nephrologist was in the room with the nurse to secure a usable access site for the dialysis. During this period, the nurse noticed that the patient’s already low O2 sats were getting lower, and he had no pulses – this is called PEA or Pulseless Electrical Activity. It means that, essentially, the patient’s cardiac electrical system is working just fine – so on an EKG, the heart appears to be just beating away and working fine. However, it is pulseless, meaning that though the electrical conduction system is working, the contractile abilities of the heart are gone, and so the patient’s heart isn’t pumping a drop of blood. The body can only sustain this for a small amount of time, because eventually the cardiac muscles stop receiving oxygen. At this point, this particular patient went into ventricular tachycardia and then ventricular fibrillation. The defibrillator was fired up while CPR was done, and then the patient was defibrillated. On the first try, they brought back a rhythm and pumped him full of a number of emergency drugs to bring up his blood pressure. Even though they brought back a heart rhythm, he was in respiratory arrest as well and his blood pressure was really almost nonexistent. Shortly after that he went down again and they attempted CPR, but the doctors told the family that there was nothing more they could do.

An hour or so later, one of the nurses asked if I would like to help prepare the body. I said no, but went anyway. We were taught about this in school, but I hadn’t yet ever experienced a death. Basically all of the tubes, IVs, catheters and other lines need to be removed and the body is bathed. Clean sheets and gown are then arranged, so the patient looks as clean and “normal” as possible for the family. This all sounds simple and nice, but I’m going to be honest – it was pretty disturbing. Because of chest compressions from CPR, air gets pumped into the patient and they kind of burp when you roll them – and it smells of their insides. Because the blood pools, the skin on the underside of the patient becomes mottled and purple. He also bled out of some of the small holes where his IVs were because his body wasn’t clotting any longer, and along with other body fluids, it was kind of messy. The oddest part of this was how the room smelled and how he smelled – it wasn’t any cleaning solvents, medicines, or blood or body fluids – I could distinguish those well enough. The smell was not unpleasant… it was almost a sweet odor, musky and fleshy. I wondered if that is what death smells like, when the body is just beginning to disassemble itself and dissolve back into the ground.

The whole day didn’t necessarily make me sad, but it got me thinking. Mainly I feel an awful, painful sympathy for the patient’s family. The look of terror and despair on their faces was more than I can handle, and I’m not sure I could work on a unit where that look is commonplace. It made me realize just how important a role nurses can play in saving a person’s life with smart, efficient decisions and delegating. But at the same time, I felt a deeper knowing of how gloomy, disheartening, and achingly real it can be.

To Judge or not to Judge

Again, it has been far too long since I posted an entry. I think it is largely because even now, I am afraid that I will somehow get into trouble for writing about my experiences. I do believe though that as long as I divulge no specifics, I’ll have done nothing more than share my boring life with the world. In any case, I have had an interesting semester so far. Here is a brief list of some of the craziest/saddest/most fascinating stuff:

-Saw a “drive by” birth; i.e. the mother comes rolling down the hall at 9cm dilated with no prenatal care and shoots the baby out within minutes. Oh, and she spoke no English. And my god, she screamed as though she was pushing out a bowling ball covered in razor blades.
-Saw far too many children slowly being eaten up by repeated bouts of cancer
-Caring for and feeding babies so premature they are the size of water bottles
-Two words: necrotizing fasciitis. Due to the misfortune of catching such a horrible infection, my patient passed away just the night after I met her.

There have been other things of course, but the vast majority of my stories are more subtly heartbreaking rather than so mentally or visually disturbing. I have quite a few more days left in my ICU rotation, and I’m sure I’ll see far more depressing, ethically challenging things before I’m done.

Specifically, I cared for an emaciated critically ill man who had been transferred from prison to nursing home to the hospital. He required intensive, detailed, gentle care, and during the day as I watched him grimace and slowly deteriorate I wondered what he had done to land himself in prison. He looked so helpless and childlike, it was hard to imagine the life he'd led. I later found out that he was a murderer. It made me feel strange to know that, but it didn’t change how I felt about him or my day. It’s interesting to learn about patient’s lives – who they love, who they are, what they’ve done, their transgressions. I have to constantly remind myself to not judge patients and their family members for ignoring or neglecting one another. A dying grandfather whose family has deserted him, while appearing sad and lonely, may have been an unremorseful pedophile or abuser. A middle-aged woman’s family may seem calm and relieved after learning of her impending death - not out of malice but out of love – she’ll soon be out of her extended misery. A forlorn bald child with cancer whose family rarely visits – her parents may be doing all they can to make enough money for her treatments.

I know it all sounds cliché and stupid, but I swear, half of this “being a good nurse” stuff is about working through the emotions of it all. Making sure I don’t turn myself one way or the other. Most of all, I'm trying not to judge what goes on in a hospital – almost everyone is at their very best or their very worst, and you have no idea who’s who.

Dang!

It has been nearly 3 months since I've posted. I feel bad about it, like I'm neglecting my baby or something. This blog was meant to be my baby after all.

Luckily, I have found myself settling in to nursing school and feeling more comfortable with my fellow students. But school is practically over now; in December, I will graduate! More and more often, life takes the opportunity to smack me across the face with the realization that IT NEVER SLOWS DOWN. I feel old and haggard already and I'm not even 22 yet. It seemed like just yesterday when I started this blog.

In any case, it's now the NEXT semester. I have Labor and Delivery, Critical Care, and Pediatrics this time around. Since the beginning of school, I've kept my mind completely open about what field of nursing (there are dozens) I want to get into. I've always had a special place in my heart for pediatrics, however, so I'm excited to see how I actually like it. Enjoying working with the little ones is probably the one stereotypical girl thing I possess. I think it's because I find it difficult to not be able to touch patients for fear of lawsuits and charges. Nurses are certainly allowed to touch patients, but it is more suggested that we do small things like holding a hand or petting an arm. But sometimes, someone just looks like they need a big hug! And with adults, it's much harder to know when that's appropriate or not and whether the patient would feel comfortable or not. Hell, there've been plenty of times when I have needed a hug but I don't know how to ask for it or I feel awkward initiating it. On the other hand, with kids and babies, it's pretty well established that hugs and touching are requirements for proper growth and development. It makes it a lot easier for someone like me!

Also, wiping a kid's butt is a lot less weird than helping an embarrassed grown man use the bathroom. I don't know if that's a common perspective, but it's how I feel and it's hard for me to get around it.

But enough of the chatter! This is a blog chronicling, to some degree, my dealings with religion and nursing. So far, more of the instructors than not have mentioned religion in some form. When one student sneezed, "GOD BLESS!" popped out of an instructor's mouth before the sneeze was even completed. Another discussed her entry into L&D nursing: "You never know what god has in store for you." Several of them graduated from Baptist schools or have husbands that are pastors or reverends. I am curious as to what it is about nursing that draws overtly religious folks. Perhaps it is a Bible Belt phenomenon.

By now it is easier for me to not be outwardly surprised by the things they say. I am intrigued and nervous about what they will teach us about circumcision, breast feeding, and labor and delivery care in general. With some things I can bite my tongue, but when I come across something that is being done just because "it's what we've always done!", I don't tolerate that very well. In general, Western birthing culture seems to be a bastardized, sterilized version of what nature intended. Don't get me wrong - I'm not saying our technology isn't wonderful and life-saving. In the case of circumcision, in probably 99% of cases it is unnecessary (I will probably dedicate a post to the topic as it deals directly with religion). Additionally, many Christians in this country do it because "It's in the Bible!" Yes it sure is; but it's referring to the Jewish peoples' covenant with god. Last time I checked, Christians aren't Jews. See how my sarcasm is cropping up already? It should be an interesting semester.

Mental Health

Thanks to my dreadful schedule, it has been quite a while since I posted. While it is still manageable, I have less of a life than I did last semester. Here’s what I figure – you’ve got the first two out of four years taking pre-reqs, right? Those aren’t too bad; you get to set your own schedule. Then comes the second two years that are the actual nursing program. The first semester is pretty stressful, because you’re getting used to this strange thing called “being a nursing student.” But by the end of the semester, you’re like “Hey! This is a piece of cake. Bring it.” The second semester, the one I’m in now, takes quite a bit more of your life away – and a large part of it is with what I’d like to call busy work and other crap you have to do on your own time. The lack of actual classroom time fools you early into the semester into thinking this will be easier than before. Wrong! And from what I understand about the last two semesters, you essentially have no life. Every minute of your free time is now Nursing School Time. Every ounce of dignity you had left is sacrificed to the Holy University in hopes of gaining enough knowledge to pass the Blessed NCLEX. (Oh, and passing grades so that you get the opportunity to even take the NCLEX.)

Needless to say, many of my fellow students (as well as myself) have been ridiculously stressed out at the idea that, as the senior students whispered so eloquently when they thought I wasn’t listening, “If only they knew. It only gets worse from here!” I have heard stories of girls sobbing randomly while driving or eating dinner, or even tearing up in school after a test (“My god, I think I failed! My life is over! They’ll kick me out of the program!”). I have even seen two male students blow up at each other during class because one of them randomly yelled “Shut up” at the other. Madness and book, chair, and door slamming ensued.

Lucky for me, I had a great conversation with my mom and have done my best to be realistic about all of this, as any outsider may consider to be the easy solution. Don’t worry! There are only two more semesters, you can do this, you’re smart, you’ve got this far, take it easy. Easier said than done, but I’m working on it. I am so grateful that for some reason I’m handling this way better than I did last semester. A few weeks ago, I even thought I was becoming depressed again, because I stopped caring and I felt so overwhelmed. That brings me to the main point I wanted to make in this entry.

The people on the psych floor, and the days I’ve spent with them, have changed my life. I have no idea what it’s done for other students, but for me, it’s been huge. Listening to the suggestions made by therapists in group meetings have been helpful things that I can apply to my own life and my own inner thoughts (Step 1: Stop telling yourself you’re stupid, ugly, useless.). Hearing from patients’ mouths how they got over disturbing and horrifying abuses have helped me rethink some of the things I’ve gone through in my life and some of the pent up hatred I have – how you have to either forgive the person, or just literally let it go and not think about it any more. Denial is my preferred coping mechanism, but perhaps I can learn to think like they do.

The patients – they are so strong, and they don’t even know it. They are so brave and beautiful yet feel scared and hopeless. They buoy up everyone else, praising their peers’ efforts with words and hugs, but shredding themselves to ribbons with their own thoughts. The worst part is the guilt and shame most of them feel for being in a psych facility – they, like most of our society, think that the ward is filled with homicidal sociopaths and scab picking schizophrenics. That is the farthest thing from the truth. But to convince the patients that society is wrong, it’s okay to be here, you are so brave and strong for coming here for help – that is practically impossible.

If I could teach ANYthing to any of the people that might come across this blog and read something, it would be about the mentally ill. There is no reason for mental illness to be taboo – really consider it for a moment. Your skin, your lungs, your heart, they are allowed to get sick, but your brain is not? Why should all the other organs be allowed to get diseases and deserve treatment but the brain does not? A person with asthma deserves their inhaler, and the pharmacist won’t look twice at them when they order it. But the shame someone feels when picking up their Prozac – can you imagine how that might impact someone’s treatment and recovery when the pharmacy tech gives them the side eye and lifts their eyebrow in disdain?

My point to the world is this – there is NO SHAME is seeking treatment for mental illness, whether it is inpatient, outpatient, or seeing a therapist. There is NO SHAME in taking medication for your mental illness, even if it is for the rest of your life. It is medicine that keeps you alive, the same as insulin keeps a diabetic alive. Mental illness is no different than any other physical illness, except the unlucky people with mental illness have no physical proof of their pain. Please consider this the next time you come across someone with a mental illness, and do your best to not judge them – they have probably been through hell, and someday you or someone you love could also become a victim of mental illness. Keep in mind – the lifetime likelihood that a person will get a mental illness is thought to be over 50%.

Dying

My patient, Miss Smith (not her real name), is sleeping once again, as she has been most of the day. For the third time, she forgot where she was and what day or year it is. For breakfast I had to feed her slowly, bite by bite, and she was very proud of how much she ate - the most expressive she was all day. "Will you tell my daughter how good I did?" she croaked hoarsely. After she ate, I gave her a bath, careful of her paper-like skin, and noticed just how frail she was under all her blankets. Her thighs were only a little larger than my upper arms, and she was so dehydrated that her skin was dry and flaking over most of her body. Prior to today, I was nervous about bathing patients and giving them "complete care," but this woman was child-like in her confusion and for some reason it wasn't awkward - it just seemed like something that needed to be done - the care she deserved.

All day long I wished for a smile from her, something to let me know that she understands I'm here to help her. Occasionally when she opens her eyes I see a recognition in her face, but her cloudy eyes blink and its gone. I checked on her nearly every twenty minutes on my 12 hour shift - one, because she was my primary patient for the day, and two, because no one else on the floor seemed to care.

An hour after she ate, I found her sleeping once again, covered in yellow vomit full of all the food I had so carefully fed her and she had so painstakingly eaten. I made sure she was not any more confused or unconscious, and then internally freaked out. I found the charge nurse and she kindly helped me clean her up and change the linens. Miss Smith was still confused and disoriented, but luckily no worse than before, and there were no signs she aspirated the vomit into her lungs. I was sorely disappointed that she got sick - especially because she had just taken her pills for the day and was malnourished enough already. I gave her another bath, but she was bewildered and only asked "Can I go back to sleep now?" in just about the saddest way possible, like it was the only thing she wanted.

Later in the day her IV became infiltrated, and I berated myself for not noticing it sooner. Her painfully thin arm had a swelled lump the size of a grapefruit near hear inner elbow, and in a way to make it up to her I continued heating a wet washcloth to help it go down, checking on her every few minutes. At lunchtime, they brought her greasy ground beef and noodles and green beans, and I tried to pick them out for her. She refused them and turned her head after two bites, and I was kind of glad - the sound of her grinding dentures made me nauseous. It sounded like dying, like a desperate attempt to make old jaws process forced food when the body just wants to give up.

She left me thinking about death all day, and now still. Not so much death itself, but this act of dying so slowly and with such little dignity. This wonderful 97 year old woman left me wondering what she was like when she was younger. I wished I could talk to her, and kept willing her medicine to start working so she'd really wake up. Regardless of the effectiveness of the medicine, her Alzheimer's would've undoubtedly prevented us from having a meaningful conversation. I wondered what growing up as a young black woman in the early part of the last century was like for her, and what effect living through the wars and Great Depression had, and whether some mistreated part of her from long ago made her frightened of me. Mostly, I wondered what I would do if I went into her room and she wasn't breathing. I asked my instructor at the end of the day, and she was chipper and made a joke. The other students in my clinical made a joke about a student giving CPR chest compressions to a patient in the ER last week, how maybe it was him that killed her. I was the only one who didn't laugh. I wonder if it's because I'm an atheist, that maybe I have a different outlook on death and dying, because it's so final - there is nothing else after. Or maybe I'm the only one that hasn't turned myself off and become numb to caring for a dying human being. All I know is that I don't want to become numb.

1 Down, 3 to Go

Hello, world! I’m happy to announce that I have made it into my second of four semesters of the nursing program, and also made it on the Dean’s List which is very exciting! I’m a little skeptical about how they determine who gets on the list though, because I have never been on it until last semester despite getting the worst grades so far last semester. Also, a girl who got grades equivalent to mine didn’t get on the list, which makes me wonder how it works. In any case, I’m still happy to see my name on the bulletin board. Hopefully it’ll stay there until I graduate. =)

The first three weeks of school have so far been relatively uneventful. The classes I’m taking are Med/Surg, Psych Nursing, and Nursing Research, with clinical hours in the first two. Med/Surg is somewhat of an extension of the Foundations of Nursing course I took last year, with more emphasis on applying the learned knowledge on disease processes and more responsibility (two patients per day, or more.) The Psych Nursing clinical should be very fascinating, to say the least; for some reason, those with mental illness, to me, seem outwardly very preoccupied with the supernatural. For instance, many of those who experience hallucinations frequently believe them to be from god(s), Jesus, Satan, demons, or other religious figures. It’s a curious thing, and I’m very interested in learning why that seems to be true. My hypothesis is that those with mental illness are just more honest, in a way, and they are just saying out loud what many others are thinking or worrying about.

I’m a little anxious about my first Psych clinical, which happens to be this Thursday. I feel like it will be the most challenging clinical experience I’ll have throughout nursing school. The reason? Mental health nurses do much different tasks than a typical nurse – they do a lot of counseling and talking with patients, along with monitoring medication side effects and administering the medications. I’ve had personal experience with pretty severe depression and other mental “problems” you could say, but I have no idea how I got better – medicine, changed environment, new responsibilities – I may never know. Even though I have dealt with mental illness, I feel like I have little to offer my future patients in the way of experience because my memories from that time have all but disappeared. I’m not concerned at all with getting hurt by patients or anything like that, but I am nervous that I’ll say the wrong thing and make someone feel worse than they already do.

Additionally, mental illnesses have a huge stigma attached to them, and I’m worried about how I will deal with it. This is especially true since I have a special place in my heart for those afflicted with any mental disease. Science and medicine now know that psychological diseases are biologically based and just as serious as a fractured bone or autoimmune disease. Someone with schizophrenia, depression, or any other mental illness has too little or too much of a neurotransmitter (or more than one) and this causes serious malfunctioning of the brain and nervous system. (That’s putting it simply.) However, most of the general population doesn’t understand that, and so they are frightened of or cruel toward someone with a mental illness. Often times, the patients themselves feel this way about their own mental illness, because they fear what they’re dealing with and the way society has taught them to feel about psychological diseases. Basically, this is what I’m worried most about responding appropriately to. For instance, if someone asks me why God hates them, what am I supposed to tell them? That there is no god, or that he loves them? The desperation and helplessness in the eyes of someone with a mental illness is heartbreaking, because you can’t just give them a shot and put a bandage on the problem.

Reflecting on the end of the Semester

I have one more day left to spend in the hospital, but I am essentially done with classroom learning in the main nursing skills class so I figured I could write about it. I've been putting off writing about the "spirituality" and "alternative treatments" chapters, which is strange because this blog is titled Atheist Nurse. I dislike confrontation with most people (except for my mom - Hi, Mom!) so I didn't really want to write about this until now. It's not like I have anything profound or interesting to say about it; mainly I'd just like to get some crap off my back about the ignorance and magical thinking some people (and college book writers) possess.

I'll start with the Spirituality chapter. I don't have any particular problem with learning about different types of spirituality in nursing school; I look at spirituality as something I don't have, but for a majority of people there is a physiological basis for their belief in god/gods. Some peoples' brains are incapable of not believing in god/gods. Therefore, if they are in spiritual distress or are depressed because they think their god dislikes them, I need to treat them with the same care and compassion that I would treat someone with a broken leg. This is especially important because the psychological health of a person is directly correlated (in most cases) to how well their bodies can heal physical wounds they may have.

So, disclaimer aside, I hate this book. It says that the definition of an atheist is "a person who denies the existence of a God." Um... what? Atheists do not deny the existence of a god with a capital G. All the atheists I know have concluded that there is no evidence to support the existence of any god or gods - not just the Judeo-Christian god they seem to favor. They even have this as a question at the end of the chapter to make sure the people understand what an atheist by the book's definition is. I have a test tomorrow over some of this material, and I'm unsure of what I'll do if the teacher (who happens to be the wife of a minister and a youth minister herself) has a similarly misleading question on the exam. In class, when teaching this material, the teacher insisted "Everyone needs spiritual care - even the atheist - because we all have a spirit, and they all need care!" ...Right. And there is also only one atheist in her world, evidently.

The chapter also has several ready-made prayers available for the student nurse to use in his/her practice. One general prayer in case we aren't used to praying, and one specially created nurses' prayer. I find this all wildly inappropriate, mainly because the only acknowledgment of the non-religious people is the single-lined definition of an atheist and agnostic with the admonishment that "They deserve respect for what they choose to believe." Beyond that, it's 25 pages of how to care for religious folks and how to become friendly with your own spirituality. Oh, and also some Critical Thinking story about how if a kid is diabetic and his parents won't take him to the doctor because they're Christian Scientists, you should put off calling CPS until you consult with the family, the family's church and your nursing organization. This is because the nurse in the story believes in the "power of prayer." Hmm.

I wanted to go on about the Complimentary and Alternative Medicine chapter, but I'll just mention some of the things they "teach" us about. Like the value of chiropractic "medicine," homeopathy, fixing your Qi, Therapeutic Touch (a horrifyingly ridiculous nursing practice that the book touts as scientifically valid), the scientifically proven positive affects of intercessory prayer (I'd love to see the studies they're referring to - because all the ones I've read show that is has negative affects), and how to feel your own energy by holding your arms out and then pulling them slowly in to feel when something "pushes back." Wow! Sounds like valuable educational material.

Like I said, I hate this book.